5 Things To Do For Dying Elderly Parents

When you lose a loved one, you are losing one very important person in your life. When someone is dying, they are losing every single person they have ever known, every memory, and every experience of their lives. This is a very difficult loss to cope with, and towards the end, people are often deep in their thoughts about these losses. Dying is hard work, and so is watching a loved one go through that process.

If your elderly parent is dying give some comfort and tell him/her: “It is OK to go. Your family loves you and we will be fine.”

Most people lose consciousness near the end of their life. But there may still be some awareness of other people in the room, and hearing what’s being said. This can be a good time to say some last words to relatives or friends and hold their hand.  They can hear everything you say even if they are in a coma prior to dying.

Even if death is predicted and expected we don’t really believe the prediction. Other people die, not our loved ones.

Persons who are dying often want “permission to die” from those they love. Often, they want to be assured of five things:

• Things they were once responsible for will be taken care of.


• The survivors will survive without them.


• All is forgiven.


• Their life had meaning.


• They will be remembered.

“I love you.”

Even with all the preparation and knowledge that death is coming, the moment of death is not easy to see. 

It is not uncommon for the dying person to wait to die until loved ones have left the room. Make sure you allow for this. Sometimes, if a person seems to be holding on, you may simply say, “I’m going to leave the room for awhile. I love you.”

You are going home

You are going home

once again going home

leaving this earthbound

existence behind

ready to soar again

outside of space and time

You are going home

riding on the wide wings

of comforting sleep

leaving your essence free

to roam far away

and yet so close

You are going home

to remember

all that you are

have always been

and always will be

You are going home

once again home

– Ulla Mentzel –

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5 Things To Do For Dying Elderly Parents